The 7 Most Transformational Tools on My Healing Journey
Healing isn’t a destination—it’s a journey that often begins when we’re broken. It’s in the moments of deepest pain, confusion, and loss that we are given the opportunity to rise. For years, I believed that healing meant changing who I was, that I had to “fix” myself to become whole. But the truth I discovered was far more profound: healing began when I finally accepted myself as I was, with all my flaws, fears, and wounds.
Life has a way of showing us what we need when we’re ready for it, and for me, it came through seven transformative tools. Each one didn’t just help me heal—it taught me that I was never broken to begin with.
I once read that 85% of families are dysfunctional. And of course, I ended up in one of them. Growing up, I never felt stable. At six years old, my parents left, and I didn’t experience true stability until my 30s. In my search for belonging, I did whatever it took to survive—I became fiercely independent, a people-pleaser, and someone who constantly worked to prove my worth.
But beneath all that, I carried the weight of my childhood—the fear of abandonment, deep-seated anger, and the painful belief that I was never enough. I built a life that looked successful from the outside, but on the inside, I was still hurting. And no amount of success or validation could fill that emptiness.
What Does an “Unhealed” Inner Child Look Like?
For me, it looked like constantly seeking external validation, feeling unworthy of love, and struggling with deep emotional triggers. Any situation that involved rejection or conflict would send me into panic mode, making me either shut down emotionally or desperately try to fix things. Every relationship became a reflection of my wounds—either I was losing myself to keep the peace, or I was pushing people away before they could hurt me.
At my lowest point, I felt completely powerless. I carried so much pain that I didn’t want to be alive. No matter what I achieved, there was always an emptiness inside me that nothing could fill.
But healing is possible. I know this because I’ve lived it. If I—a person who once felt completely lost—could transform my life, I know others can too. And that’s why I’m sharing these tools with you: to help you uncover the hidden blocks in your life, heal deep wounds, and step into the person you’re truly meant to be.
What I Hope You’ll Gain From This Guide
I want to share with you the seven most transformational tools I’ve used on my journey—practices that helped me heal my inner child, reclaim my power, and step into a life of purpose.
By reading this, I hope you’ll find:
A sense of hope, knowing that healing is possible.
A new perspective on your emotions and patterns.
Practical tools you can explore and apply in your own life.
What to Expect
Over the next few posts, I’ll be sharing 7 powerful tools that helped me break free from old patterns, heal deep wounds, and step into a life of clarity and purpose. These aren’t just concepts—I’ve lived them, struggled through them, and experienced their impact firsthand.
For each tool, I’ll take you inside my journey and break down:
What it is – A clear, no-fluff explanation of what the tool is, how it works, and why it’s so powerful.
Where I was when I found it – The real-life struggles that led me to this practice. (Spoiler: most of them started with heartbreak, confusion, or rock-bottom moments.)
How I used it – The exact ways I applied it to my healing process—what worked, what didn’t, and how it changed me.
How I use it today – Whether it’s still part of my life and how my relationship with it has evolved.
How you can apply it – Practical tips for trying it yourself, no matter where you are on your journey.
These tools helped me navigate deep emotional pain, reconnect with my inner child, and rebuild my sense of self. If you’ve ever felt lost, stuck, or like you’re carrying wounds you don’t know how to heal, I invite you to explore them with me.
Let’s dive in—your transformation starts here!
Read about the first tool: HO’OPONOPONO.