#6 - Creating My Document
What Is a Document?
In the coaching world, I was introduced to a concept called the "document." In essence, it's a written set of statements about who I am choosing to be.
Some call it an I AM statement or a Declaration—it’s similar to an affirmation, but with a key difference: it’s not just about what I want to believe—it’s about who I am choosing to become. It’s about creating the very life I want to live with my language.
Where I Was When I Found It
I came across this tool much later in my life. I was already deep in my spiritual journey—regular meditation, retreats, and a mostly contemplative lifestyle immersed in David Hawkins’s teachings. I had done so much healing, and for the most part, I was happy. But something still felt missing.
One place this showed up was in my marriage. No matter how much inner work I did, I found myself in constant conflict with my husband. It felt like nothing was working. I knew I needed a deeper shift—not just in my thoughts, but in how I saw myself.
Then, I met Steve Hardison—known as The Ultimate Coach. I had heard about him through a friend whose life had completely transformed under his coaching. When I met him in person, I felt something profound: unconditional love. That feeling alone was enough to make me dive into learning more about him. That’s when I discovered the document.
How I Used It
Creating my document wasn’t just about writing positive statements—it was about confronting the deeply rooted beliefs that had shaped my life and choosing a new truth.
I started by writing down everything I believed about myself. The words poured onto the page faster than I expected. Within minutes, I had filled an entire sheet. As I read through my own words, I noticed a painful pattern—certain beliefs kept repeating:
"I am not lovable."
"No one loves me."
"Everyone leaves me."
"I am not good enough."
Each statement felt deeply familiar, and I could trace them back to real moments in my life—experiences that had convinced me these things were true. It was raw. It was painful. But it was also freeing, because for the first time, I saw these thoughts for what they really were: just stories I had been carrying for years.
I sat with each belief, allowing myself to feel the emotions attached to them. Then, I asked myself: What if these thoughts weren’t true? What if I chose a different story?
From that process, the first line of my document was born:
"I am a child of God. I am complete and whole."
This wasn’t just a nice affirmation—it was a truth I felt at my core. Life constantly tries to convince me otherwise, making me believe I need something or someone outside of me to feel complete. But every time I come back to my document, I remind myself of what’s real.
At first, reading my document felt unnatural—like I was lying to myself. But I committed to it. I read it every morning. I whispered it to myself when doubt crept in. And over time, I started to believe it.
More importantly, I started living it.
Why I Like This Tool
Unlike traditional affirmations, my document is deeply personal. It’s not just about saying positive things—it’s about rewriting my self-concept at the deepest level. It helps me align with my highest self and stay grounded when challenges arise.
How I Use This Tool Today
I read my document every morning, sometimes out loud, sometimes in silence. If doubt, fear, or insecurity creeps in, I go back to it, anchoring myself in the words I’ve chosen. It’s my guide, my foundation, and a reminder of who I truly am.
How You Can Apply This Tool
Take time to reflect on who you truly want to be.
Identify the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back.
Write a declaration that affirms your highest truth.
Read it every day—especially when life challenges you.
Let it become your new reality.
Resources
📚 Books
The Ultimate Coach by Amy Hardison
Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz (understanding self-identity shifts)
🎧 Youtube
The Ultimate Coach: Steve Hardison 'Coaching' on Commitment - TBOLITNFL
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🙌 Read about the final tool next: Being in a Relationship 😳